Sunday, July 12, 2009

The Battle Begins!

Natasha and Vladimir were so sure that things were moving along just wonderfully until.....we went to visit Katia's brothers. We left Poltava and headed to the home of the foster family where Katia's brothers, Misha 17 and Slavic 9, live. We were greeted by Misha, well kinda, he said something and went into the house. Soon papa comes around the corner with no shirt zipping up his pants and mama comes out the front door. We came just to visit and to let her brothers meet us. Irena started talking to Misha about how he was doing in school and about Katia wanting to live with us. She never mentioned the letter of separation that he would eventually have to sign. But Mama only heard parts and pieces of the conversation so she called the authorities over foster care in the region. We were invited into their home and they took us around the home. We met there other children, their oldest,19, adopted when he was a baby, a girl 10, two girl foster children, 10 and 6 and Katia's brothers. They all seemed very nice. We didn't know that mama had called the authorities until we had met and talked for a little bit. As we were talking Natasha told us we needed to leave, to late they had arrived. There were three of them, two women and a man. The man never really said anything. They were all upset because mama had told them that we were forcing Misha to sign the letter, but that was never our intention. The foster mom said that Katia had be there a couple of weekends every month, we knew that wasn't true because we would call Katia almost every weekend and she was at the orphanage. Mama didn't even acknowledge Katia, talk to her or hug her. Katia held on to me the whole time. Mama said that Misha was really upset the Katia was going to America, I think watching him he was jealous. He never talked to Katia while we were there. Katia was asked if she had talked to us often and she said yes and then the one woman called her a liar. Katia left with Irena. And Natasha told the woman that she had no right to treat Katia that way. When we finally made the authorities listen to the real story why we were there and that we had a right to be there, they calmed down and wished us the best of luck. We breathed a sigh of relief so we thought. After we had gotten into the car the director of the orphanage called. News of this episode had reached the regional director, you know the one who hates international adoptions, she was stopping everything and starting an investigation on this case. The orphanage director was threatened with her job and Irena quit the job at the orphanage as a social worker. She will still be the math teacher. Because of that one call everything is now screwed up. Right now I don't know if I can ever see that foster mom again without wanting to -----. Natasha still thinks we will be able to adopt Katia it just will take some fighting for her. Adoption here now is a rocky road they are looking for anything to stop the process. Pray for us please.

7 comments:

Wendy said...

OMGOODNESS! I ran into David H at the airport today as the Lobos' arrived home with their Kayta. He mentioned you were having problems with the regional lady but not to the extent of your blog! I am so sorry. What was the foster mom thinking? Good grief?
You'll be in my prayers!
W

Margie said...

I am so sorry. We will say lots of prayers. I feel so bed for Katia. Keep posting!

Carlin said...

You are in our prayers too. I hope that things will come together for you and Katia can be strong through it all... everyone seems so scared in the region and that makes it hard on the kids.

Andreas said...

Our prayers are with you. We remember being when Katia called Natasha every day, wondering when you were coming. We'd be happy to attest to that fact. What a crazy twist of events. We didn't know Irena had quit either.

Lori said...

I have been wondering about you guys and how things are going. I am so sorry to read things are rocky right now. You will certainly be in our prayers.

Anonymous said...

This is terrible. Here is Katia that desperately wants to be part of your family and getting stuck with politics. I can’t believe Irena quit, this is major, and she has been one of the biggest supporters of Intl adoption. Was she forced to quit? Give her our thanks for all her help over the years. You are in our prayers.

What are you going to do now?

-David & Eldie

The Loves said...

Oh, Charrisse and Bob, we are so, so sorry. You are in our thoughts and we are praying for you! Don't stop posting.
Paul and Karen Love